Taking heed of advance care planning
Tan Jee Yee | 02 Mar 2018 00:30
Advance care planning also helps reduce friction and indecision among family members should the unexpected happens to you and they don't know your wishes – Freepik
In the living room of 35-year old Jack Teoh sits a prayer altar, bathed in the soft red glow of its electric candle. He glances at it before turning around to speak about his mother, the matriarch of his family until a year-and-a-half ago. 

“My late father may have built our family finances, but it was mother who built up our family,” he says.

His mother suffered a stroke and was left largely immobile during the last year of her life. In Teoh’s own words, that period was like a “bad Hong Kong television drama”.

“We didn’t know what to do, basically,” he says. He has five siblings, all whom began arguing over what to do with his mother’s condition.

“All of us have different memories of what my mother wanted us to do if she was ever bedridden. Some of us remembered her saying that she would prefer a hospice, but some of us remembered that she would want home care. It turned ugly a few times.”